Minggu, 28 November 2010


The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
In relationship and business is largely achieved through the cooperative effort of two or more people, and they have commitment to allow everyone to win.

1. Win-Win
People who change to win and make sure others also win practice win-win. People with a win-win paradigms take time to search for solution that will make them happy and simultaneously satisfy others.
The Characteristic :
+ Seek mutual benefit
+ Is cooperative, not competitive
+ Listens more, stays in communication longer, and communicate with more courage
2. Win-Lose
People with a win-lose mindset are concerned with themselves first & last. They want to win, and they want others to lose. They achieve success at the expense or exclusion of another’s success. They are driven by comparison, competition, position, and power.
The Characteristics :
+ Is very common scripting for most people
+ Is the authoritarian approach
+ Uses position, power, credential, possessions, or personality to get the “ WIN “
3. Lose-Win
People who choose to lose and let others win show high consideration for others, but lack the courage to express and act on their feeling and beliefs. They are easily intimidated and borrow strength from acceptance and popularity.
The Characteristic :
+ Voices no standards, no demand, no expectations, of anyone else.
+ Is quick to please or appease.
+ Buries a lot of feeling.
4. Lose-Lose
People who have a lose-lose paradigms are low on courage and consideration. They envy and criticize others. They put themselves and others down.
The Characteristics :
+ Is the mindset of highly dependent person
+ Is the same as a “No Win” because nobody benefit.
+ Is a long-term results of win-lose, lose-win or win.

5. Win
People who hold a win paradigms think only of getting what they want. Although they don’t necessarily want others to lose, they personally set on winning. They think independently in interdependent situation, without sensitivity or awareness of others.
The Characteristic :
+ Is self-centered.
+ Think “ me first “
+ Doesn’t really care if the others persons wins or lose
6. Win-Win or No Deal
Win-Win or no Deal is the highest form of win-win. People who adopt this paradigms seek first for win-win. If the cannot find an acceptable solution, they agree to disagree agreeably.
The Characteristics :
+ Allows each party to say no.
+ Is the most realistic at the beginning of relationship or business deal.
+ Is the highest form of “ WIN “

M.Taufik Hidayat
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Senin, 15 November 2010


Crisis, it invokes negative emotions, pessimism, fear, confusion, stressed. But the Webster dictionary defines crisis as “ the point or time for deciding, the decisive moment “ The Chinese offer another interpretation. The Chinese word for Crisis comprises of two characters “Wei ( danger ) and Chi ( opportunity )“ Whether one comes out of crisis, stronger of fallen, will depend on we perceive / see the situation and the decision we make. Pro active people always think positively, there for they always think that the change is the opportunity for getting the better result. But for reactive people who often think negatively always think that the change is a threat for them. Always be proactive and positive thinking due to we will always spirited and have high fighting spirit for gaining our dream.

The Reactive persons most of them are spiritless which make them very difficult to gain their dreams. Need to be known that focus on positive thing will generate the positive thing, but if we always focus on the negative thing will generate negative thing also !

M.Taufik Hidayat

Trainer & Motivator